Margarita Neri
Zapatista commander
If more women were like Margarita, feminism wouldn’t need to exist.
One of the things I think I like most about Parks & Rec is that it constantly reminds people that feminist ideals aren’t dead, only moving forward faster than ever. If a primetime TV show had tried to address feminism so often even ten years ago, it probably would have been cut pretty quickly.
I will say that the worst thing a girl can do is fall in love with a man expecting to be caught rather than standing on her two feet next to him. Also, a man can’t “make a girl fall in love with him.” If she hasn’t got enough of a brain to make a decision on her own, I don’t want her. I thought that the emancipated woman took pride in the fact that she could decide for herself who to love? Am I wrong?
1) A woman should never feel she was “made to fall.”
2) She shouldn’t blame the man for her choice.
3) She should stand on her feet as a partner in the relationship.
4) If the relationship is a partnership, I will catch her, and I hope she will do the same for me when I fall.
5) I will always treat women as a gentleman should: as his equal.
(Can you tell I hate these things?)
Hugo Schwyzer (via the Good Men Project)
I love this quote. I always feel a little attacked by women who say they don’t want to be oggled. I wasn’t quite sure how I was supposed to go about finding out if a woman was attractive if I couldn’t look at her. This quote makes the whole thing so clear. It’s ok to look. However, it’s not ok to work her whole body over with your eyes as if you were examining it in order to write some sort of dissertation. Although her body may be one of the finest works God has created, the artist hasn’t put her in a gallery, and you haven’t been hired by Artforum to write an article on her.
So, what I have learned from my wonderful feminist friends is that I CAN take a quick check for attractiveness. But, she had better understand that I see her as a human being, not as an object put on display for my enjoyment, purchase, or criticism.
(Source: fleish, via asktheangels)