If more women were like Margarita, feminism wouldn’t need to exist.
I will say that the worst thing a girl can do is fall in love with a man expecting to be caught rather than standing on her two feet next to him. Also, a man can’t “make a girl fall in love with him.” If she hasn’t got enough of a brain to make a decision on her own, I don’t want her. I thought that the emancipated woman took pride in the fact that she could decide for herself who to love? Am I wrong?
1) A woman should never feel she was “made to fall.”
2) She shouldn’t blame the man for her choice.
3) She should stand on her feet as a partner in the relationship.
4) If the relationship is a partnership, I will catch her, and I hope she will do the same for me when I fall.
5) I will always treat women as a gentleman should: as his equal.
(Can you tell I hate these things?)
"I listened to my classmates tell painful stories of the first time they noticed men ogling their bodies. I realized that I’d grown up believing what many men believe, that guys may not have a right to touch what they see, but they have a right to look as much as they want. Listening to women’s stories, I understood for the first time just how uncomfortable it was to be on the receiving end of those penetrating stares. The jerks who genuinely don’t care how their stares make other people feel aren’t likely to be reading this, and if they do, they’ll ridicule it. These are the lads who think it’s their God-given right as men to take ownership with their eyes of all that they survey, and they don’t give a damn what anyone else thinks. A blogger named Holly once wrote, in a comment about this very subject, that there should be “no objectification without due subjectification.” That’s jargon, but the idea is a simple and useful one: it’s OK to stare at someone else’s body (and even long for it) as long as you don’t ever forget that you’re looking at a person. And just as you have a right to lust, that person has a right to not be made forcibly aware of your desire."
Hugo Schwyzer (via the Good Men Project)
I love this quote. I always feel a little attacked by women who say they don’t want to be oggled. I wasn’t quite sure how I was supposed to go about finding out if a woman was attractive if I couldn’t look at her. This quote makes the whole thing so clear. It’s ok to look. However, it’s not ok to work her whole body over with your eyes as if you were examining it in order to write some sort of dissertation. Although her body may be one of the finest works God has created, the artist hasn’t put her in a gallery, and you haven’t been hired by Artforum to write an article on her.
So, what I have learned from my wonderful feminist friends is that I CAN take a quick check for attractiveness. But, she had better understand that I see her as a human being, not as an object put on display for my enjoyment, purchase, or criticism.
(Source: fleish, via asktheangels)